Nov 15

I Am an Ally


What does it mean to be an ally?

People sometimes ask me why I am so passionate about reconciliation within the United Methodist Church. They say what does it matter if the church splits or what difference does it make now that many couples can get married in many States.

I want to tell you why it matters so much to me.

I wasn’t raised in a United Methodist Church, I choose the UMC as the church I wanted to pursue ordained ministry in because it is the church where I felt the unmerited, unequivocal, prevenient Grace of God for the first time. Prevenient Grace is the Grace of God that we are born into. We can’t earn it,  we don’t choose it, God choose us and died for us, ALL of us. That is simply how it is. God didn’t die for those of us who were born to fall in love and make babies with someone of the opposite gender, NO, God sent Christ to die for all of us.

What does it mean to me to be able to be a Pastor to anyone I meet?

It means I can be who God is calling me to be, not only to some people but to ALL people.

Why does same sex marriage have to be in a church ? What is wrong with couples getting married at the courthouse or in a park? EVERYTHING is wrong with it if we want to be able to be in ministry with ALL of God’s children. When a couple gets married a family is created, regardless of whether or not the couple chooses to add children to the family, the couple is a family, and that couple will need a Pastor.

Life is full of joys and frustrations, happiness and sorrow, and God has called Pastors to minister to those who are celebrating and to those who are mourning. If I have said to a couple that they cannot be married in a church where I am serving then I have also said to them that they cannot come to me when they lose a job, or their parent, or when they can’t cope with any one of life’s sorrow’s. I am also saying to them that they shouldn’t bring their children to church to celebrate their baptism because the church has said they are not welcome.

We cannot continue to proclaim the Good News to all but reserve the benefits of Church participation and membership to those who happened to be born straight and not gay.

This is why I am an Ally.


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    • Frank M. D'Ambrosio on November 15, 2014 at 11:34 pm
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    Well said and bravely spoken. You have wisely spoken out on a subject which has divided this nation-and many Christian churches-for decades. To speak as an Ally of those who seek same sex marriage is to open yourself to a great deal of difficulty. I truly honor you for having had the courage to speak out anyway. I also thank you for opening my eyes on this subject after many decades of having quite a different position.

    1. Frank you continue to make me proud and I would say that you are one Methodist who truly lives out the call to have “Open Hearts. Open Minds, and Open Doors.” If we could only stop screaming about this issue long enough to talk about what it all really means I think there would be more Methodists like yourself who could have a “new” mindset of same sex relationships and marriage. God Bless You !

    • miran541 on November 17, 2014 at 12:06 am
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    Thank you, Christine. I love what you have written.
    Blessings on your future ministry and on your journey of courage and faith.

    • junehee yoon on November 17, 2014 at 10:57 am
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    Christine, you are such a treasure in the United Methodist Church. What a sincere and profound reflection! Your ministry has been and will continue to be truly helping out the Church to renew their spirit!

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